Self Esteem – Part 2

Self-Esteem – Part 2

Identity and Belonging

In the last blog (Self-Esteem) we looked at what self-esteem is and how to recognise it in yourself and those around you. Today in Self-Esteem – Part 2, we begin to look at nurturing a healthy self-esteem in yourself and your children.

Instilling a strong sense of identity and belonging in yourself and your child goes a long way to developing a healthy self-esteem. It is one of the primary avenues that we have at our disposal.

Sense of Identity

Establishing and maintaining a strong sense of identity is integral to your self-esteem. It is crucial to understanding who you are as a person, and to realistically evaluate yourself and your place in the world. It helps the individual get a sense of themself as a separate and individual person.

Some ways to establish and maintain a positive identity:

  • Encourage the child to look after their own needs in order to develop self-confidence and an understanding of their abilities.
  • Praise the child’s achievements honestly so that they understand you see them as having a valuable and separate identity.
  • Take pride in your child’s individual abilities, praise them for their skills and talents.
  • Help the child take responsibility for their mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes; it’s natural and is a part of the learning process throughout life.

Self-Esteem - Part 2

Sense of Belonging

A sense of belonging is also important, and is strongly connected to the individual’s identity. An individual will gain much from feeling that they belong to certain groups. Furthermore, being included in these groups goes a long way to establishing a lasting sense of belonging and building self-esteem.

Some ways to encourage a sense of belonging:

  • Help the child to understand their family history and where they come from. This understanding allows the child to feel like they belong to your specific family group.
  • Encourage the child to take part in school. Help them to be included in as many activities and groups as possible. Assisting them to be a valuable member of various group will give them a greater chance of attaining a sense of belonging and ultimately build their self-esteem.
  • In many cases, it is valuable for the child to join clubs and societies. For example, a child may thrive in a theatre group, a sports team, or even groups that cater to hobbies such as Pokémon or chess.

In the next post, we will be looking at nurturing a sense of security in your child by establishing emotional and physical boundaries around them. This includes providing them with the space they need to flourish.

Eamonn Boland & Valerie Kilkenny

Bath Avenue Counselling